What Will I Do To Feel The Way
I Want to Feel?
(I find that title more thought-provoking than "Daily Planner".)
This is my new 2019 Daily Planner from Danielle Laporte. For years I’ve just used my own planning system, which works pretty well.
Except last year, I had trouble doing all the things on my list. I’m good at blue sky thinking and have a lot of ideas, but I am not as good as I’d like to be at the “getting it done” part of things.
The Action Part
I’m doing a little self-coaching here, and realized that I need to upgrade the way I take action. I have good intentions, but I tend to over-schedule and over-work. And that’s not working for me anymore.
The Feeling Part
I also let my feelings dictate what I do and don’t do. Which is what we all do. That’s why the way we feel is sooooo important. If I feel down, I think I’ll just do it tomorrow (yeah, right).
When this happens, I really disappoint myself because I don’t feel in control of my own destiny. If left to my own devices I tell myself a story of how lazy I am, and what a terrible person I am because I procrastinate.
For some reason, some part of me thinks this is a pep talk. (I have decades of evidence to prove that it is not.)
The Thinking Part
So, if thoughts cause feelings, I’m wondering what my thoughts are around my “to do” list. I think I have beliefs that I need to work really hard to achieve anything. And that being really busy means that I’m working hard. If I’m not worn out, then I’m not doing it right.
And then also if I’ve procrastinated, I feel like a failure, and I don’t want to feel like a failure, so I turn away from the whole thing to avoid those feelings.
All this makes me feel anxious and then I jam my schedule full of things. And then I don’t get everything done. And them I’m disappointed in myself.
Whew! I think need some new thoughts.
The Results Part
First I’m going to get clear on what I want to create for myself in 2019.
The truth is I want to create many things. But, I know myself well enough to know that I have shiny object syndrome — I’d rather start something new than finish something old. And that does not work for me anymore either.
I want to consciously create, rather than just show up and see what happens.
How do we want to feel?
Deciding how you want to feel is the best place to start. What would you distill it down to if you had to choose three feelings?
Flash forward to one year from now and you are reflecting on 2019, what do you want to be different? How do you want to feel?
Winter is a Great Time to Go Deep
Winter, with all its cold and darkness, makes us want to curl up and stay inside. It’s a great time to reflect.
Right now, is also the best time of year to plan because nothing has had a chance to really go wrong yet! I’m enjoying these liminal first steps, and I hope you are too.
I’ll see you out there on our hero’s journeys in 2019!
