Your Secret Way
Here are some important questions you may already be asking yourself.
Do you feel like you’re meant for more? But, you don’t know exactly what?
Maybe you kind of know what you want, so why can’t seem to find the time, money, or energy to go for it?
Are you settling? Or, is it just not the right time?
What does it mean when you’ve tried everything, only to find yourself in the exact same spot, year after year?
What exactly do you need to break free from? What is holding you back? Why is it such a mystery?
Do you feel like a life of meaning is meant for others, but not for you?
Why won’t your secret yearnings go away? If you’ve tried to go for a life where you are doing some sort of work that’s outside the norm, yet feels wonderful to you, but you can’t get there.
I am on a mission to help women with this, because this used to be me.
I’m for the women want the freedom to be that secret self that’s been whispering to them their whole lives.
I help them answer the call that is on their life.
To free them from that ache for more purpose and meaning.
To help them discover the hidden reasons that they’re stuck
I have known, deep in my heart, that yearning for a life and work filled with meaning and purpose and have felt the decades-long ache of unfulfilled potential.
I’m here to tell you that:
- You are here to live out the fullest potential of your life
- It’s never too late
- You absolutely have what it takes
Even though, you’ve tried all the things and are feeling stuck and even hopeless, it might be because of a missing ingredient or two – hidden ingredients.
You need a solid foundation from which to make your big move.
To make a move with courage, confidence, and clarity,
- There are things you need to know
- There are things you need to prepare
Once you come into this deeper knowing and are fully prepared, you can answer the call that is on your life.
Because you are unique and because the time of one-size-fits-all is over, the answers aren’t “out there”, they’re in you. I have tools and knowledge that guide you to discover exactly what you need to know and to prepare.
With this customized, solid foundation from which to leap, you can move beyond where you’ve gotten stuck in the past and get on your path to more meaning and purpose.
The Hidden Reasons we Settle
If we knew what wasn’t working, we’d fix it. But, there are hidden reasons that we settle and stay stuck in situations that aren’t right for us. It’s normal, but that doesn’t mean it’s fun or that you have to accept it.
For me, I had a lot of fear. To be honest, it was fear of practically everything – rejection, not being good enough, making mistakes, not being liked. I could go on. I used to call it The Fear. Capital T. Capital F. I thought everyone had it, but I noticed when I mentioned The Fear, people would look at me weirdly.
I realized that perhaps the way I was doing things wasn’t carved in stone, and that there was a better way forward. This led to years of exploring. The good thing about all those years is that I learned a ton. The bad thing about those years is that it took years.
That’s why I help other women now. Because it doesn’t have to take years. There are ways to clear away what’s getting in the way, so you can get started on your journey right away.
It takes a lot of energy to be someone you're not.
I first heard this from one of my teachers, Karen Curry Parker. When I first heard it, it went through me like a bolt of lightning. I had a huge ah-ha. As someone who has burned-out a couple of times, having to leave jobs because I couldn’t do them anymore, it felt like I finally had a key that could unlock a foundational issue in my life.
It’s a journey that I’ve been on for awhile now. It started with acknowledging that I hadn’t actually overcome my quiet, shyness, to accepting my true nature. One day, I challenged myself to actually looooove that part of myself. I can’t say I’m 100% there, but I’ve been making significant progress. It’s been so interesting.
If you're not true to who you are, it's hard to know what you want.
There are many reasons that we don’t know exactly what we want. But, a big one is not truly being ourselves, which affects us all. Really seeing yourself, going back to what you loved when you were a kid, before the culture really got ahold of you, is key.
If you feel like you need to know what you want before you begin, perhaps you’ll never begin. This is what we call a “limiting belief”. There are ways to begin and get going, without knowing exactly what you want.
One way is to get back to true you.
The role of Shame, in keeping you stuck.
Brene Brown has famously said that guilt is feeling bad about something you’ve done; while shame is feeling bad about who you are.
I don’t know about you, but I have felt a lot of shame about who I fundamentally am – quiet, sensitive, shy. For most of my life, I felt like I needed to hide my very nature from others. Especially at work.
For that reason, I tried really hard to hide my quiet self. I don’t think I fooled anyone but myself. But, this didn’t stop me from make a tremendous, ongoing effort to be someone I’m not. It’s exhausting, leads to burn-out, and leads us down incorrect paths in life.
I didn't even know I was doing this.
Here’s the really mysterious thing – I didn’t even know I was doing it! It wasn’t conscious. It was so woven me that being quiet was bad, that I did everything I could to not be quiet. Only recently have I come to see this so clearly. It’s given me so much compassion for myself.
This is where we humans are a little weird. So much of this stuff happens below the surface, in our unconscious. (fyi – I have a course that explains why this is so, so you can go to my on-line courses (coming soon!) to gain a better understanding of this and how you can change it.) Carl Jung said it best:
That's why I call it your Secret Way. It's within you, but you are keeping it a secret from you. What?
What if you could discover your own secret way to get what you want in life?
What if it was both easier and harder than you think it is to follow that secret self?
What if you finally decided to get on your path and begin your journey?
A New Way Forward - Your Secret Way
You can be doing everything right – the right education, famous employers, good habits, fabulous skills, a good mindset. And still get burned out and have that feeling of untapped potential within you.
This could be because you aren’t aware of, or haven’t truly embraced your true essence and genius. In my work, I help quiet, sensitive humans discover and articulate their genius and their strengths, so they can do their own work in the world, without the burn-out, the untapped potential, and the shame.
We need the voices and sensibilities of more quiet, sensitive humans in the world. You don’t have to do it “their” way, you can discover a new way forward – your way.
It would be my honor to guide you.
To me, this is the most sacred work. To be honest, I didn’t set out to be a Career Coach. But, because I experienced such angst over being adrift and purposeless, when I discovered ways to remedy this, I wanted to share it. Career Coach is really a muggle term for guiding you to find your life purpose and to get off the struggle bus and into something more meaningful.
I offer courses, coaching, astrology and human design for seekers like me. I can help you rediscover your true nature and help you find a new way forward that really works for you, in your life and in your work.
This is my work in the world and it would be an honor to guide you to your true nature and to your work in the world.