Quiet, Sensitive
Humans

Embrace Who You Are

Is this you?

Are you a quiet, sensitive human living in what feels like a loud, fast, extroverted world?

Have you been made to feel that you are somehow less than because you are quiet?

Do you feel like you should somehow fix yourself?

Being quiet is not usually the norm.

Something I have noticed is that society’s standard is some version of extroversion. It’s people with a lot of energy, who like to go-go-go. You just want to stay home, and they unceasingly want to get out into the world and do “stuff”, and they want you to do it with them!  Work seems easy for them – they’re very visible, they speak up in meetings, have no problem networking, and have an endless capacity for work.

But somehow, what is easy for them, can be hard for us. The same endless meetings, phone calls, late-night chats that energize them, can drain you if you’re a quiet person. But, at work, you can’t tell anyone that without being seen as weak.

It’s not their fault, but they put pressure on the rest of us to measure up to their standards. If we don’t, we’re somehow falling short. For example, there was a recent Oprah article that gave advice to quiet people about speaking up in meetings (not the first article of this sort!). Why are there not articles suggesting that loud people hold back and be more thoughtful and quiet in meetings? Nope. You don’t see those.

Embracing our quiet, sensitive natures.

If we don’t value our quiet, sensitive natures and advocate for them in life and at work, no one else will either. I feel that we bring a lot to the table, and instead of trying to be like “them”, let’s be more like ourselves:

I believe that we need more quiet, sensitive humans doing their work in the world, in their own way.

I believe that the more you are you, the more powerful you become.

I believe that, for others to appreciate and value you, you need to appreciate and value you first. Start with you.

It takes a lot of energy to be someone you're not.

I first heard this from one of my teachers, Karen Curry Parker. When I first heard it, it went through me like a bolt of lightning. I had a huge ah-ha. As someone who has burned-out a couple of times, having to leave jobs because I couldn’t do them anymore, it felt like I finally had a key that could unlock a foundational issue in my life.

It’s a journey that I’ve been on for awhile now. It started with acknowledging that I hadn’t actually overcome my quiet, shyness, to accepting my true nature. One day, I challenged myself to actually looooove that part of myself. I can’t say I’m 100% there, but I’ve been making significant progress. It’s been so interesting.

The role of Shame, when you're a quiet person.

Brene Brown has famously said that guilt is feeling bad about something you’ve done; while shame is feeling bad about who you are.

I don’t know about you, but I have felt a lot of shame about who I fundamentally am – quiet, sensitive, shy. For most of my life, I felt like I needed to hide my very nature from others. Especially at work.

For that reason, I tried really hard not hide my quiet self. I don’t think I fooled anyone but myself. But, this didn’t stop me from make a tremendous, ongoing effort to be someone I’m not.

I didn't even know I was doing this.

Here’s the really mysterious thing – I didn’t even know I was doing it! It wasn’t conscious. It was so woven me that being quiet was bad, that I did everything I could to not be quiet. Only recently have I come to see this so clearly. It’s given me so much compassion for myself. 

This is where we humans are a little weird. So much of this stuff happens below the surface, in our unconscious. (fyi – I have a course that explains why this is so, so you can go to my on-line courses (coming soon!) to gain a better understanding of this and how you can change it. Carl Jung said it best:

What if ...

What if your quiet, sensitive nature is your superpower? 

What if you could lean into your quiet nature and be even more successful?

What if you were valued for simply being you?

A New Way Forward - Your Way

You can be doing everything right – the right education, famous employers, good habits, fabulous skills, a good mindset. And still get burned out and have that feeling of untapped potential within you.

This could be because you aren’t aware of, or haven’t truly embraced your true essence and genius. In my work, I help quiet, sensitive humans discover and articulate their genius and their strengths, so they can do their own work in the world, without the burn-out, the untapped potential, and the shame.

We need the voices and sensibilities of more quiet, sensitive humans in the world. You don’t have to do it “their” way, you can discover a new way forward  – your way. 

It would be my honor to guide you.

I have many credentials for the work I do, but the main one is that I am a quiet, sensitive human. As my husband often says, “It’s not easy being you.” Ha. No, it’s not. But, it’s getting easier. I can make it easier for you too. 

I offer courses, coaching, astrology and human design for quiet, sensitive souls. I can help you rediscover your true nature and help you find a new way forward that really works for you, in your life and in your work.

This is my work in the world and it would be an honor to guide you to your true nature and to your work in the world.

 

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